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Grownups at Work

In ! Kristy, Culture, Employee Tips, Leaders, Uncategorized on Tuesday, May 17, 2011 at 6:55 pm

It is my sincere belief that if we would talk to each other at work like grownups, plenty of problems would be solved. Here are just a few:

We’d spend a lot less time, money and angst on 360-degree feedback assessments. The assessment companies make a killing off of our inability to tell each other the truth about performance, reputation and whether or not we’re jerks.

We’d save even more time by streamlining performance management systems and processes. If you knew at any given time how you were measuring up to your manager’s expectations, a bunch of forms and a complex rating scale would be unnecessary.

Speaking of managers… They’d get a great deal of time back in their workday if people were talking to each other about their issues instead of playing the telephone game. That’s the game of telling on their colleague to their boss, who tells the other person’s boss, who tells the other person, vaguely, that “there’s been some feedback about you.” And that extra time could be spent growing and developing people! Cool!

The benefits are apparent, so why don’t we talk to each other candidly? Could be that we see it as the manager’s job… And the manager could be inadvertently reinforcing this notion per the previous paragraph. Could also be that we fear the other person’s potentially defensive reaction or their retaliation. Could be that we just don’t care enough about the success of the company, the team or the colleague to make the effort. Maybe we just plain don’t know how.

You can find some fabulous skill building on how to have a constructive conversation, so if that’s what you need, go for it. But at the end of the day it’s about taking a deep breath, finding a private moment, and saying what needs to be said in service of the success of all involved. Et voila, grownups at work!

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